Feedback Thoughts: How You Can Improve if Your Thoughts Do

As you go throughout life giving an getting feedback is a part of it. Whether you are on a sports team and the coach is calling the team together about the game, or a boss talks to his coworker about the job he has been doing. Feedback is inevitable and crucial to a workplace and its employees because that is how a corporation gets better. I read an article about receiving feedback and it was called, "Using Harsh Feedback to Fuel Your Career" by William Treseder. He talks about getting rejected from the marines helps him become better and reach is goals more. On the opposite end is giving feedback. When you speak to a child you have to be very precise on how you choose your words. If not then the child could either be a person who is too hard on themselves or to into themselves. All of that stems from how they are treated and praised growing up. The article about the difference between praise that I read is what cultivated this idea of how important words are in a situation. I believe this is something I could take away for my everyday life. If everyday I thought a little bit about what I should say before speaking then less arguments could occur. If I thought before I spoke then maybe everything I say sounds more articulated. Another article said it similar when it says you should pick and choose which kind of praise you give children because it is important. They said that it is better to be present for a child then give them words that will boost them up too much. The article "Presence, Not Praise" by Maria Popova reveals that in the end children do not need too much praise by they need someone who is around to love on them. The last article I read is titled, " Why Rejection hurts so much-and what to do about it" by Guy Winch. This article explains how to overcome reaction and key things you have to focus on. Things meaning boost your self worth, focus on social connection, and don't involve yourself in self criticism. He believes that self worth is key to receiving feedback well. He also says that as social mammals we need connection to feel wanted and needed. Lastly, it is important to love yourself and say kind words to you in order for you be able to say kind words and do kind actions to others. These articles showed how I can better give and receive feedback. I should not take words people say too personal but focus on what is being said so I can approve as a person.








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My Resources

 Why Rejection hurts so much-and what to do about it by Guy Winch. 

Using Harsh Feedback to Fuel Your Career William Treseder

The Difference Between Praise That Promotes Narcissism vs. Healthy Self-Esteem By Poncie Rutsch

Presence, Not Praise: How To Cultivate a Healthy Relationship with Achievement Why instilling admiration for hard work rather than raw talent is the key to fostering a well-adjusted mind. By Maria Popova

Growth Mindset: Eastern vs Western Education

When I was younger I remember being called on by a teacher to come to the board. I also remember being very reluctant and shy to even get out of my desk. My palms were sweaty and my cheeks were flushed with the same color as my vibrant red shirt. As I walked steadily toward the board I thought to myself, "Oh man do not mess up."



If you took a poll in America and you asked, "Have you ever been called on by a teacher and did not want to be?", many would answer yes. I read the article, "Struggle Means Learning: Difference in Eastern and Western Cultures", by MindShift. The article is about a man named Jim Stigler, a professor from UCLA, who went to Japan and sat in a Japanese classroom. He was doing research at the time about the difference between Eastern and Western culture education. He soon found that Eastern culture believes struggle is opportunity. In Western Cultures like America it is believed struggle is the reflection of your intellect. Eastern cultures believe struggle is a part of any journey and is a must to achieve your goals. Struggle in a way to them is a necessity. Separately in Western cultures intelligence is a direct reflection of who you are and who you become. Unlike in Asian cultures they believe intelligence is not who you are but an obstacle you can overcome if you can battle with your inner demons.



I really enjoyed reading the article. It makes me sit back and think about how I am in school. I beat myself up when I mess up sometimes and when I receive a bad grade I feel disappointed. But education is not who I am on the inside. I am more than just a student. I am a wife. I am a world traveler. I am more than what meets the eye.



Resources:
Struggle Means Learning: Difference in Eastern and Western Cultures
Baby Picture
Children with Globe

Week 2 Storytelling: The Bride and Her Prince

 She stepped out onto her hotel balcony and looked into the distance. She could see snow capped mountains and frozen trees that stood planted along the streets winding up to the mountains. Amelia was overwhelmed by the stillness of the she felt in her heart. The wind moved wistfully  across her rosy red cheeks as they were beginning to get stiff from the rigid air.  Her wedding day was tomorrow and she could believe it came so fast. His name is Edward. Edward is this wealthy businessman who is humble and kind. He won her parents hearts instantly and hers soon after. They met through a mutual friend after her heart was broken. She remembers the day like it was yesterday. She was rolled up in a bowl on her king size bed and tears rolled continues down her cheek. If not him then who?. Her relationship to him was passionate. They fought practically all the time and loved just as fiercely. The night they met was magic for him and it didn't take her long to take a liking to him. He was tall with dirty blonde hair and sweet brown eyes. Women stopped to stare and men wished they could be him. He was a catch. The moment he first saw her he knew that he was done with searching. His life finally began. Amelia instantly felt like he was a snob. She thought his good looks would make him uptight and mean. He seemed pompous and that's what her judgment was going to be. He soon proved her wrong of course and fell deeply for him. It wasn't his persistence on wanting to get to know her or the way he would stare at her when he was on the other side of the room. She believes to this day it was the way he stood tall through everything he has been through. She admired him. Edward was unlike that. He grew up with wealth and is still considerably wealthy so hard work was never taught. He can captivate a room with his grace and looks but when it came down to experience real life issues he fell short. Somehow she wished he would be able to understand and relate to her.


The day came and went with a quick blink of an eye. Today is the wedding day and Amelia was putting on her dress for the first time with her made of honor Alice attending to her. She zipped up her dress and fluffed it out while Amelia was trying to stay tightly put. Her heart was pounding and her eyes were watering. "Could is be my everything? Maybe there has to be more." She kept repeating to herself. Then the time came with the church bells ringing and she walked with her white satin ball gown. Amelia's hair was curled and clipped halfway up with a flower clip. This was the big moment. She walked down the
multicolored stone floor toward the churches alter.  There he was with his solid baby blue eyes and dark brown hair. She felt like a model walking in her gown and looked into the many faces that arrived to see the big day. They sat in white chairs on both sides with lights streaming above them. She walked steadily toward him and then came to a stop. She let go of her father's arm and  stood in front of her soon to be husband. She smiled at him under her veil and a smirk appeared on his face.
Suddenly the door of the churches flew open. A lanky man with sweet brown eyes and dirty blonde hair came running in. He screamed, " I OBJECT." The crowd turned and stared blankly not knowing what to make of the scene. Amelia broke down. She cried out, " Allen is that you really you?" This was the man that made her heart skip a beat. The man that crushed her heart when they ended. The man she lay awake at night wondering if it is a dream or reality. She kissed him passionately in the middle of the aisle. She knew now he was it. The fighting they did and the craziness that comes with being together is all worth. Waking up next to him will always be worth it.



Author's Note:
I rewrote the wedding scene within the book, Narayan's Ramayana. The two lovers were destined to be together in this story. Rama just needed to prove he is worthy of Sita the princess.  He had to use a bow to show that he is worthy and even though when their eyes met they knew it was love he had to jump through some obstacles. Instead I made my characters normal people but instead the obstacle was that he had to stop the wedding showing he is the man that deserves her heart. I used the pictures that I did because when I think of a couple on television that fought a lot it was the notebook. I chose the wedding photo because I somehow found one of a couple in the mountains.

The Notebook
Wedding Photo

Reading Notes: Narayan's Ramayana,Part A

I am reading through chapter 2 called, "The Wedding." Within minutes of ready the chapter I was amazed at how well the scenery is described. I would like to start my story off by describing a beautiful scene in front of me but maybe twist my story to be in front of massive mountains. I would tell the story in a woman's perspective and display her thoughts. As if we were listening to her speak about her wedding day and what she sees in front of her. There will be snow capped mountains in distance and big frozen leafless trees. The air will be blowing but just a slight breeze and everything is still. Then as a move into a different setting the readers can hear my characters thoughts and how she does not want to marry the man that she will see at the end of the aisle. She will describe how she longs for the man much like the story and he will long for her too. Except instead of Rama seeing Sita and instantly falling in love I will make my characters best friend. My character will have parents that do not agree with them marrying and will try and make the two at odds with each other. Continuing with my story and how Sita father used the bow as a way to find the right match my characters will have a similar fate. Instead I could allow my main male character to fight the groom and win the lady's heart.

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Narayan's Ramayana, "The Ramayana Shortened Modern Prose Version of the India Epic"